Exploring Confidence

10 October 2019

‘You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. Do the thing you think you cannot do.’ – Eleanor Roosevelt 

When I was little, I thought that confidence was being the loudest person in the room. As I moved into my teens, I thought that confidence was having a strong (and sometimes, stubborn) point of view. Fast-forward to my mid/late-twenties, and I now realise that confidence is something far more important and valuable than I gave it credit for in those early years.

Are you a confident person? For me, this was always such an easy question to answer – ‘Oh, she’s very confident’ was the label I was given by family and friends since I could crawl. But with age, I’ve found that I often need to dig deep to find my confidence.

I think it’s partly because, being confident, doesn’t just mean being loud and having a point of view anymore. I’ve discovered that for me, confidence means taking action.

It’s the ‘taking action’ that many of us struggle with. Because taking a stand, means potential losses. Losses of friendships, partners or jobs and it’s this fear that we may lose something that on some level brings us happiness, which means we lose confidence in ourselves and our judgements.


We take the easy road, because it’s safe and comfortable and we know it.  But what we don’t gain when we take the easy route, is confidence.

So here is your sign from the universe, do the thing you cannot do, make the decision that feels right for you and take a chance. The things you’ll loose are meant to be lost!

Confidence will always be a work in progress. It requires time, dedication and uncomfortable experiences or decisions to grow. And that’s ok! If you’re on a journey of self-discovery, just know that you’re not alone. We’re all learning, one day at a time.

Nicole ♡